Possible Violation of a Restraining Order via Third-Party Contact
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Father put a restraining order on me and text me by the girlfriend phone.
Attorney Answer
Do not reply to that text. You wrote that the father put the order on you, which makes you the restrained defendant and him the protected plaintiff. Under Arizona Revised Statutes § 13-3602(G)(3), the order restrains you from contacting him. So his text is not a violation of your order — and answering it is precisely what the order forbids. Under A.R.S. § 13-2810, knowingly disobeying or resisting a lawful court order is a class 1 misdemeanor, and § 13-3602(R) lets a peace officer arrest you with or without a warrant on probable cause to believe you violated § 13-2810 by disobeying the order, whether or not the officer saw it happen.
It makes no difference that he reached out first, or that the message came from his girlfriend's phone. A protected plaintiff cannot give you permission to contact him and does not waive the order by initiating contact himself. Under § 13-3602(L), only the court can modify, quash, or continue the order, and a party is entitled to a hearing on written request while the order is in effect. If the two of you need to communicate, that change has to come from the judge.
The contact is still worth documenting. A plaintiff who initiates contact is a fact your attorney can put in front of the court at a hearing to modify or quash under § 13-3602(L). It just is not a defense to replying in the meantime.
What you can do:
1. Do not respond — not to that number, not through a friend or relative, and not on social media. Contact made through a third party is still your contact.
2. Screenshot the message, the sending number, and the timestamp exactly as received, before anything gets deleted.
3. Consult an Arizona attorney promptly about requesting a hearing under A.R.S. § 13-3602(L) to modify or quash the order — that is the only lawful route to contact.
4. If you are accused of violating the order, talk to that attorney before you discuss the contact with police — § 13-3602(R) permits a warrantless arrest on probable cause alone.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Can someone violate a protective order by having another person send a message on their behalf?
Generally yes, if a restrained person directs or arranges for someone else to make contact, that can constitute a violation of the order even though their own name or number wasn't used.
What if the third party sent the message entirely on their own, without the restrained person's knowledge?
In that case it may not implicate the order at all, since the order restrains the specific person, not others who might act independently.
Should someone respond to a message that may violate a protective order?
Generally no — preserve the message and the evidence without replying. If you are the restrained party, replying is itself the contact the order forbids, and the lawful route is a written request for a hearing to modify or quash the order (in Arizona, A.R.S. § 13-3602(L)), not a reply. A protected party can take the evidence to law enforcement or the issuing court.
