What Happens at a California Restraining Order Hearing Between a Parent and Adult Child?
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Out of concern, a father hired a private investigator to look into his adult daughter's personal life. When she found out, she filed a restraining order against him. In a text message to her, he said their phone conversations had been recorded, but that was not true -- he said it only to scare her. There is a court date coming up. What should we expect at the hearing? Would the father have to reveal who the private investigator was?
Attorney Answer
A parent-child relationship qualifies for California's domestic violence restraining order process, not just the more general civil harassment process, so this hearing is likely more significant than it might first appear.
California's Domestic Violence Prevention Act extends to close relatives, including a parent and child, not only spouses or partners. If the daughter's restraining order is a domestic violence restraining order, the stakes are higher than a typical civil dispute: a judge who grants a long-term order can issue it for up to five years, and it automatically triggers firearm restrictions under both state and federal law. That alone is a strong reason to take the hearing date seriously and have representation.
At the hearing, generally expect:
1. Both sides get to present evidence and testimony, and the father can respond to the daughter's allegations and explain his own actions. 2. The judge focuses on whether the father's conduct meets California's definition of abuse, which can include threats, harassment, and conduct that seriously disturbs the other person's peace of mind, not on whether the father's underlying suspicions about the affair were correct. The false statement about recorded calls may be used by the daughter's side to argue a pattern of intimidation, which is worth preparing for directly rather than downplaying. 3. On the private investigator's identity, there is no special legal privilege that automatically shields a PI's identity or their work from disclosure in this kind of hearing. If it is relevant to whether the father's conduct amounted to harassment or intimidation, the court can require it to come out. An attorney can advise on any narrower arguments that might apply to specific pieces of information.
What to do before June 9th:
1. The father should get a family law attorney experienced in restraining order defense immediately. Given the firearm consequences, self-representing is a real risk. 2. Gather any documentation relevant to why the PI was hired and what, specifically, they were asked to do. 3. Be ready to explain the false recorded-calls statement honestly. Trying to minimize it in front of the judge usually backfires.
One more note: recording someone's phone calls without their consent is illegal in California, so it is fortunate for the father that this did not actually happen. But claiming falsely that it did can itself be used as evidence of intent to intimidate.
This is general legal information, not legal advice about this specific case. A California family law attorney can review the actual restraining order petition and advise on the strongest approach for the hearing.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Does a restraining order between a parent and adult child count as domestic violence in California?
Yes. California's domestic violence law covers close relatives, including parents and children, not just spouses or dating partners, so these cases follow the same process and carry the same potential consequences as other domestic violence restraining orders.
What are the consequences of a domestic violence restraining order being granted?
A long-term order can last up to five years and generally prohibits contact with the protected person. It also triggers a legal prohibition on owning or possessing firearms for as long as the order is in effect.
Is it illegal to record someone's phone calls without telling them in California?
Yes, California generally requires all parties to consent before a confidential phone call can be recorded, and violating this can lead to both civil and criminal consequences. Falsely claiming a call was recorded, without actually recording it, is a different issue but can still be used as evidence of intent to intimidate.
